Posts tagged race
Posts tagged race
I think the whole Angry Black woman stereotype has less to do with actual black female anger and more to do with polite politics (simply bringing up certain topic or concerns infers you are angry) and other’s discomfort with a silenced group speaking up
When you are silenced for so long when you do speak you may become irate
When you feel you are not heard you may begin to yell
And sometimes, often times, it’s not how you say it, but what you say. People tend to place their own emotions on the interaction. Similar to the student who reports tension between themselves and their roommate, only to discover, when they finally sit down to talk, that the other person was unaware there was a problem at all. Their discomfort becomes your anger; they need someone to blame for their feelings. Though sometimes the disconnect is that what is said violates polite politics- meaning you must be angry to breach a social code- As if these topics cannot be discussed civilly by the group it effects the most or that the anger that has been seen is not justified .
When black women bring up injustice, they are not ‘angry people’ as if simply acknowledging social ills places you in permanently enraged state. Really, they are upset by the act, it cause stress and anxiety. More than anything we are Tried Black women. I post a lot of shit about social issues and had more than one person tell me that I’m angry all the time, because of this act alone, when I reality could not possible maintain the amount of anger it would take to react to all the things that affect me. I am simply reflecting my lived experience, and as a person who experiences oppression, I learn to live in it, I learn to find happiness DESPITE it. Hell I’m more joyful than half of the Christian, str8 white males I work with. Your perception that i am angry all the time is a reflection of how you would react in my world; those
tl;dr when someone labels you an angry black women for pointing something out, speaking up, or just acknowledging a problem and rocking the boat just ask the question yourself “am you angry or are they just uncomfortable”
It bothers me that white folk complain about minority scholarships as if the school is giving away free money and doing us a favor. Fuck a GPA, sports and all the rest of that, our presence is power, there is money in diversity and we are wanted to support the learning for white students, our scholarships are assistantships.
Being a person of color on a PWC is akin to being an adjunct professor, without the parameters of when and where you must teach. We are an experience. When you pay to get in Disney world, you expect those people in the Goofy and Donald Duck costumes are being paid correct? Well for white students universities are like their educational amusement park and students of color are the interchange actors in the Mickey customs
This is not to say there aren’t valuable relationships formed at PWC between white students and students of color or that POC do not graduate with happy memories, but we aren’t at the same Disney world; we are working
We are answering your questions about hair, language our bodies
We are called upon to teach in the classes we are supposed to be learning in
We are providing customer service when you make a racist joke and we bite back our 1st thought and go with respectable politics
We offer you ‘diversity programing’ where you can taste our food and watch us dance
We show you what’s outside your bubble
We are the black roommate answer to your interview question for that 1st job
This is why it pains me when I hear complaints about minority student orgs. Do other jobs not provide break rooms so the staff can sit together and eat lunch, take off their “professional” and be themselves? You have the space, it is your amusement park; we are here for your amusement
But I guess what they are really saying is they want be voyeurs, free of charge in our habitat, that’s what those mission trips and inner city volunteer project are for right?
He says he likes to wear white women as a sign of “status and power.”
I’m not watching the awards but apparently Rihanna decided to keep it extra easy brezzy sunday and not unwrap her hair
the amount of funcakes i give doesn’t even register in weight watchers points
but the thing that makes me laugh is black folks is passing out in the street
and everyone else is riffling through their drawers for bobby pins to try this edgy new look
the only folk who see this shit as an indoor hair do is black folk, cause no one else has seen it before, bish is genius, there are 432432 other races who seeing this for the first time and ret to hit up the salons for the Riri wrap (well except for those equal opportunity daters who have dated black women… if you are one of those, hmu B)
Rihanna has released you from your umbrella of shame, she has granted you freedom to run to the store in joggin pants and not have to bother unwrapping your hair, she done brought laziness to a new level
now if some celeb could just hit up the red carpet in a slept on, smashed fro and/ or silk bonnet i can jump on this bandwagon
Dearborn Heights police believe Renisha McBride, 19, was shot in self-defense as the shooter believed she was an intruder. Her family was initially told by police that her body was “dumped” and discovered near Warren Avenue and Outer Drive, but now police are saying she died on the man’s front porch.
""They didn’t like my dreads," said Tiana.
FoX23 reviewed the school’s dress code. It states, “hairstyles such as dreadlocks, afros, mohawks, and other faddish styles are unacceptable.”
The school feels that could distract from the respectful and serious atmosphere it strives for.”
"…the Mother’s Day Parade shooting has largely been forgotten. On Sunday, shots were fired into a crowd during a parade in the New Orleans 7th ward. Police said they saw three suspects running from the scene.
This is the largest mass shooting in the United States where the shooters were still at large after the crime was committed. Think about that for a minute. From Columbine to Virginia Tech to Fort Hill to Aurora, all the shooters were either killed or apprehended on site. But the person or people responsible for shooting 19 Americans are still free.
…Because this is an act of domestic terrorism right? Just because the alleged shooter was wearing a white tee and jeans does that suddenly make the shooting a gang-related affair? And we all know how irrelevant gang-related shootings are in America….
Now take a moment and imagine a Mother’s Day Parade in the suburbs of Denver, a neighborhood in Edina or a plaza in Austin where bullets rain down on civilians and even hit children. I can’t help but imagine the around-the-clock news coverage. And I can’t help but think it’s because most of America can identify with the fear of being bombarded with gunfire while just enjoying a parade in the middle of town. But America can’t identify with being at a parade in the “inner city” where “gang violence” erupts. The “oh my God, that could happen to me” factor isn’t present with a story about New Orleans or the Chicago southside.”
Davis was convicted of participating in a string of armed robberies in the Miami area in 2010. His accomplices testified against him, saying he carried a gun during their crimes and discharged it at a dog that chased them after one of their burglaries. But Davis was not convicted of hurting anyone physically, including the dog… Now 20 years old, he was sentenced to 1,941 months - almost 162 years - in prison without the possibility of parole.
Police in Rialto, California, received a 911 call from King’s fiancee, Cynthia Kelly, about 5:25 a.m., said Capt. Randy DeAnda. Responding officers found King at the bottom of the pool, removed him and performed cardiopulmonary resuscitation until paramedics arrived. He was pronounced dead at a local hospital, police said.
here’s some Gems:
* The yen is very strong against the dollar right now. This will make goods in America seem very cheap — an excellent opportunity for shopping! However, remember to be polite in your use of money — America is in the middle of economic malaise right now, and Japanese people with wads of money in their hand might be looked on with envy. Besides, if you are obviously wealthy in an American city, you may be robbed.
* For our valued customers who work in the automotive industry [#1 employer where I live], we advise discretion. If you must say where you work, the preferred phrasing is [English] “I work at the car company”.
* Most Americans are very polite, particularly outside of the big cities. However, outside of the big cities, everyone owns guns. Inside the big cities, almost everyone owns guns. Let’s be polite together!
* If you go shopping at an American department store, they will ask you if you want to open a credit card account. They are *not* asking whether you want to use a credit card. This may seem strange but it is an American custom to offer customers a credit card, in order to make them spend more money. We suggest politely declining offers of credit cards. You may have to politely decline several times. Don’t think of this as rude, the Americans have to do it too.
that 99% of the dudes that message me for sex on online dating sites are white men. Not to mention I’ve tried to strategically place little gems all over my profile about how I’m NOT looking for sex and that I will stopping talking to you if you inquire … but that would mean you actually looked past my pic. Add on that I usually avoid full body pic so they have no reason to message me pondering my damn bra size.
Its really funny because I have never been approached by a white man IRL and I’m an equal opportunity dater, they just don’t apply. The only thing I can take from that is that it has nothing to do with dating and everything to do with fetish. I am a plus size black woman, they don’t see a woman they can date or marry, they see someone they can experience their fantasy with. So much so, that they can’t wait to talk about it, but they wouldn’t do that in person. On top of that there must be an assumption I am on the dating site to fuck some white man with Aunt Jemima fantasies. Why else would you, after saying Hi and and asking do I date white men, follow that with questions about ass licking and the heft of my breast?
let me say that not all the white men who message me do this, but almost all the men who message me for sex are white. Not to say that MOC don’t sexualize me, but hell, at least they do it in person. They got the ovaries to walk up to be and be like “damn you sexy as hell, ohhh shit!!! look at your ass” (SN: these men tend to be drunk). I’m curious to see if A. am I the only WOC who has this issue and B. are they just messaging all women like this and I’m being too racially conscious (lol, i know right)?
IDk, but I’m starting to be leery of messages from white men, other than replying to their “hi” message with “Hello, I’d be glad to talk to you, but 1st let me preference this convo by letting you know I’m not looking sex. That includes, but is nto limited to, hand jobs, ass licking, face sitting, S&M and reenacting Roots for your sexual pleasure. Also, before continuing please see the little squiggly lines on my profile, they are called letters and together they form words, those words can tell you that we have nothing in common other than you fantasize about large black women batting your dick like a cat toy and I am a large black woman who looks like i could” I don’t know what to do…
but from now on i will, at minimum, ignore all message that start with “hi sexy”
am I crazy or is this happening to anyone else?
There’s been a lot of talk these last couple of weeks about “hipster racism” or “ironic racism”—or, as I like to call it, racism. It’s, you know, introducing your black friend as “my black friend”—as a joke!!!—to show everybody how totally not preoccupied you are with your black friend’s blackness. It’s the gentler, more clueless, and more insidious cousin of a hick in a hood; the domain of educated, middle-class white people (like me—to be clear, I am one of those) who believe that not wanting to be racist makes it okay for them to be totally racist. “But I went to college — I can’t be racist!” Turns out, you can.
People benefit from racism—hell, I benefit from it every day—and things that benefit powerful people don’t just suddenly get “fixed” and disappear because Halle Berry won an Oscar or whatever. Modern racism lives in entrenched de facto inequalities, in coded language about “work ethic” and “states’ rights,” in silent negative spaces like absence and invisibility, and in Newt Gingrich’s hair. And in irony.
Good news, ladies! Society has discovered another new thing that’s wrong with you, which means another opportunity for you to make yourself more attractive for your man. Score! Turns out, the color of your vagina is gross and everyone hates it. So bleach that motherfucker. Bleach it right now!
So what are the pro-vadge-bleaching people thinking? Here’s a hilarious explanation from a male ad exec:
"It is hard to deny that fairness creams often get social commentators and activists all worked up. What they should do is take a deep breath and think again. Lipstick is used to make your lips redder, fairness cream is used to make you fairer-so what’s the problem? I don’t think any Youngistani today thinks the British Raj/White man is superior to us Brown folk. That’s all 1947 thinking!
The only reason I can offer for why people like fairness, is this: if you have two beautiful girls, one of them fair and the other dark, you see the fair girl’s features more clearly. This is because her complexion reflects more light. I found this amazing difference when I directed Kabir Bedi, who is very fair and had to wear dark makeup for Othello, the Black hero of the play. I found I had to have a special spotlight following Kabir around the stage because otherwise the audience could not see his expressions.”